It’s strangely easy to be judgmental about the way other people raise their kids. The idea that a young person is being raised badly brings the knives out.
Perhaps it’s because kids are innocent and helpless, so that defending them is one of the few truly noble deeds we can perform in this life. Perhaps it’s because everybody’s got parents and everybody was raised somehow – so parenting is one of the few standards we have in common. Or maybe we’re all just judgmental fucks looking for an excuse. It would explain so much.
Whatever the cause: Complaining about what other people’s parents are doing wrong is perhaps the most popular human pastime after making kids in the first place.
That’s probably why every subculture I’m familiar with has, at some point, had an existential crisis about their kids.
People in the Society for Creative Anachronism worried about how their kids will develop if they feel a little too comfortable with feudalism; parents into BDSM have worried how much to disclose and how much to keep secret. Is it okay to insist that your 10-year old son be a flag bearer who died at Antietam for three weekends a year? Can you bring your kids to a Star Trek convention if you want them to grow up and enjoy a healthy sex life?
God, people are weird.
All of them are worried – and yet only the children of the rich are famous for consistently turning into horrible, horrible, human beings. Makes you think.
These same tensions bubble up periodically among Burners. Read more »